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I knew it was satire. But given the things you’ve done in your life Antonio, I wouldn’t be surprised at all if you had a kid who demanded radical academic acceleration at a young age and aimed for the Ivies. Haha

I have a couple of friends in this situation. They are very unschooly. One of the kids in the family plays by plowing through academics, so that’s the path those kids have taken, while the siblings follow more traditional meandering unschool routes.

It’ll be interesting to see how it all unfolds for your family!

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I want them to love learning and if they feel that includes serious academics so be it. I just want them to avoid the hyper competitive, individualistic, zero sum mindset that so often grows from there.

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And I was mostly kidding. While I do know a couple of unschooled kids like that, most of them including my own enjoy their freedom in other ways. :)

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For sure, I could hear that in your writing.

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Hehe i was pretty sure you weren’t serious but I’ll be honest, you had me doubting everything I know about you for a minute there 😂 I’m so disillusioned with college/university, frankly. I think that for many it can be a way in to careers they perhaps wouldn’t have access to, but for others it’s just kind of pointless, and a massive waste of money. I went to a really good uni in the UK and it cost me close to nothing, so even though I’m now doing something entirely unrelated and arguably probably didn’t use my degree at all, at least it wasn’t a massive financial burden! But when it comes to my kids - I’ll be focusing much more on putting everything into perspective and questioning whether college is necessary/worth it.

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Ha, I wanted to lead with a note about how I was not being serious but decided the reaction that bubbled up from within folks from this essay might be worth the unsubscribes from people who would not take the time to read it through.

Yes, I want to have lots of conversations early on so that they see that university is not just a shiny golden ticket type object that everyone is fighting over, but that it presents a very time consuming and often expensive opportunity cost, as well. May be great, may be terrible, all very context dependent.

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I wasn’t 100% sure where this was going at first lol

We’re expecting our first kid and I’ve thought a lot about that. I know we don’t want to repeat the mistakes our parents made and we want kids to be as smart as possible.

But I’m trying hard to not be reactive and do the exact opposite of what I didn’t like in my childhood. I’m sure I’ll make a lot of mistakes (we’re not perfect) but I’d love to strive to accept them how they are and go from there.

Easier than said and I’m sure there’s a touch of idealism in what I’m saying but let’s see how it goes!

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I'm so glad you read it! I hope I can share some thoughts moving forward that you may find helpful. Congrats on the pending birth!!

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Looking forward to those and thank you!!

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